HEY WOMAN, BE YOU TITUDES

Hey Woman!

I must applaud you for the wonderful works of your hands, look at you, so productive yet multitasking.

who would sweep pass your feet and claim you are not good enough?

You are worthy of all these accolades no doubt, someone just have to speak it out.

but Hey! do you feel envy or jealousy when you see other women rising? when other women are achieving their goals how do you feel? do you fume with envy when your unmet aspirations are all round about but others getting the bag?

Here are the reasons why you feel that way and trust me, it has to stop.

1.Social Comparison: You compare yourself with other woman as a way of appraising your own success and progress. This unhealthy attitude has to stop as you are meant to have your own goals set for the specific period while you mirror that instead of giving room for social comparison. The only thing that should highlight your shortcomings and unmet aspiration should be your own self review. the competition should be within you and with you and not other woman.

2.Cultural Pressures: Societal expectations play significant roles in the aspect of career advancement, physical appearance or social status. seeing others excel in these areas and you not breeds unnecessary pressure and feelings of inadequacy. truth must be told as we are all humans but we should not give room for these feelings but rise above it and remain focus on our goals.

3.Personal Insecurities : The spirit of second guessing one's worth or capability should not be encouraged at all, the moment low self esteem or any other feelings that might want to amplify insecurities start to rear its head, break out from the evil mindset. it's demeaning.

4. Media Influence: Yeah, everyone goes to the internet to show off their success, People boast on linkedin about the achieved success and certifications, they show of their killer body on tinder, snapchat and instagram and they boast all about on youtube, Bigo and tiktok about they expensive lifestyle. This should not be your headache Woman. The internet is filled with 90% fake lifestyle so do not let their unrealistic lifestyle bother you.

Be aware that all the above listed and explained feelings are surmountable, Build your self awareness, be collaborative and not competitive, celebrate success and not envy them.

Turn the envy into motivation and inspiration.

I love stilettos but only in pictures PT 2

Do you trust your stilettos that much? 😊

Ever had a day where you thought you had it all figured out, only to find yourself on a path you never imagined? Picture this: red-bottomed stilettos, poppies adorning your outfit, strutting like you own the world on a valentine’s day, you know, a touch of red thingy. That was the plan, until reality decided to crash the party.

 

You step into the office, feeling like a million bucks, but guess what? Your ankles revolt, screaming in pain like they've had enough. So what do you do? You kick off those fancy Louboutin and walk out with those lifesaving flat slippers that sleeps and wakes in your vanity bag, chin up, and determined.

 

It's a day of contradictions—looking fabulous yet feeling exposed, seeking solace yet facing scrutiny. But in that vulnerability, you find strength. No more relying on flashy accessories to define you. It's about owning your truth, coming down to earth and being bold.

 

Amid contradictions—A revelation dawns. True strength lies in vulnerability, Fashion is about expressing yourself, embracing what empowers you, and stepping into your authenticity with confidence.

 

But hey, let's not throw the platform heels under the bus just yet! Whether it's stilettos, platform heels or flat shoes, it's all about what makes you comfortable and confident. Wear what empowers you, what speaks to your soul, and stride with pride.

 

Life's not about the pomp and glamour; it's about the journey, the raw moments that shape us. So here's to embracing our true selves, flaws and all, stepping forward with purpose, one soulful stride at a time.

 

 

 

So, here are some fashion tips to navigate your style journey:

 

1. **Comfort is Key**: No matter how stunning those stilettos may look, if they're causing you agony, it's time to rethink your footwear. Find shoes that not only complement your outfit but also keep you comfortable throughout the day.

 

2. **Embrace Versatility**: Your wardrobe should be a reflection of your personality and lifestyle. Invest in pieces that can transition seamlessly from the office to after-work drinks or weekend adventures. Mix and match separates to create diverse looks that speak to your individuality.

 

3. **Accessorize with Purpose**: Accessories are the punctuation marks of your outfit, adding flair and personality. Whether it's statement jewelry, a sleek handbag, or a bold scarf, choose pieces that elevate your ensemble and tell your story.

 

4. **Know Your Body**: Fashion is not one-size-fits-all. Celebrate your unique body shape and dress accordingly. Experiment with silhouettes and styles that accentuate your best features and make you feel confident and empowered.

 

5. **Stay True to Yourself**: Trends come and go, but style is eternal. Don't feel pressured to conform to societal standards or follow the latest fads. Trust your instincts, embrace what resonates with you, and let your individuality shine through your fashion choices.

 

To cap it all. fashion is but one thread woven into the fabric of our experiences. It's a journey of self-expression, exploration, and discovery. So, embrace the highs and lows, the triumphs and tribulations, and walk your path with grace and authenticity, one soulful stride at a time.

EMOTIONAL SELFCARE

Loneliness is a thing and it is universal. The set of people around you don't really determine it, Loneliness is from within. you can be in a crowd and still be lonely likewise be among lively people. when it comes to loneliness, you are your own doctor,  you cure it from within, you heal individually. what most people fail to realize is that it must be cured inwardly before bringing people close to you and that is where emotional selfcare sets in. Just like how you care for your skin, health, your emotions need care too.

Although, emotional selfcare depends on self readiness, you don't just do it as a daily routine.

 Your mental health and emotional health must agree and balance before taking the bold step.

Need I say more that you have to be aware of the parasite that is feeding on your happiness thereby making you gloomy? You feed this leach anytime you feel lonely.

Now you wonder, how do I breakout from this ?

perhaps I need a therapeutic session. No you don't, I will list few points in no particular order for you to serve as your checklist. Loneliness has to be attacked before escalating to depression.1. Do not give room to self rejection

what ever it is that will make you second guess yourself or lead to self disapproval, wash your hands from it. you are uniquely created, meaning you carry awesomeness that stands you out from the crowd. lean on that everyday and raise up your chin. 

2. The moment people start asking you questions about your looks, mood and attitude, know that something is wrong somewhere. Don't wait for people to pass negative comment. drop off the load, shake the viper out and practice self mindfulness.

3. Do what makes you love and makes you happy

Do you love talking, start podcasting, Do you love taking pictures? start creating contents, oh! you love recording yourself? then see yourself as a tiktok star and walk in the path. is it Traveling? then YouTube is calling you. do you like writing? be a scriptwriter, a freelance writer or a blogger. just go for it.

4. The Morning Routine Matters

Does prayer, ted-talk, devotionals, yoga or singing  makes you feel alive?  Whatever it is that makes your morning feels like a good morning , please do it. You surely need to make the best out of your morning because you generate all the energy needed for the day in the morning, be sure to generate a handful one.

5. Lay and wake up from the positive side of the bed even if it is challenging 

There could be some days where mood swing might want to get the best out of you especially if you are a lady, don't give in, it's a trap (lols). Focus on positivity, Adopt a forward thinking mentality, do more of solution than complaint. be an energy vampire, suck the energy from the earth before it stings you with hustling, bustling and life challenges.

life is surely not a bed of roses but you can make each day purposeful by living one day at a time.

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Written by Wandehighflyer

THE VEIL OF THE MIND JUST AFTER YOUR PRAYER

 The Bible says the thief only come to steal, to kill and destroy. John 10:10

What does this mean to you? have you ever been in a waiting period where you pray fervently with all your strength and faith, believing God to perform his wonders but then, the devil stroll in just after your prayer and start messing with your thoughts and make you start second guessing all you prayed for in faith. That's the veil of the mind.

Some call it spell, some call it unconsciousness while some call it Brainwashing. whatever it is you call it please don't fall casualty. 

The veil of the mind is something very powerful, it clouds your thought, it makes one loses focus and distract you with irrelevant things and less people that matters to your life journey and specific goal.

You might be wondering how it operates and why I call it a veil. 

Our mind is where we transact our life businesses, decisions are made there, actions and spotted there, ideas formulates from there, we give permissions to different things and forces there and lastly we gossip with our inner self there. Now imagine a place where all these operations are being executed and a veil or a blog cloth is used to cover it. Nothing happens there, you just walk pass it and believe it is not in existence. that is exactly what happens when -people term it as just existing and not living, not creating impacts not leaving footprints.

Various things could lead to getting your mind veiled. I will list few for us and how best to regain your consciousness so that we don't get robbed off our rubies

First and Foremost, Random Thoughts: this happens within a twinkle of an eye. Spot this>> you are trying to reason how best to start your podcast business and boom! the thought of pizza just creep in and then you grab your phone to order online, you check websites for varieties, yo u placed an order, you switch to instgram thereafter and from there to tik tok, Alas! you are miles away from your dream just because of your random thoughts. your mind has been veiled with the thought of a pizza. Whenever you find yourself doing this unconsciously, use the weapon given to you by God in His Word 2Corinthians 10:5-6, cast down all imagination and every high things that exalt itself again the knowledge of God. 

The second one is Losing Enthusiasm and zeal for that which you have been looking forward to achieve. This can be funny at times, you find yourself disapproving that which you have want to do, you find yourself throwing in the towel at the verge of breakthrough because of  the thought of disapproval that has crept into your mind. The best way to counter this is to hold on to your goal, write it down and don't stop till it is achieved. 

Have you ever been in a situation where you just sleep and wake without doing anything impactful ? just the usuals. you don't see any reason why you should paint the world with your beautiful colors, trust me, your mind has been veiled with complacency. the best way to come out of this is to ask oneself, What have I achieved for myself this day? what have I achieved for myself this week? what have I achieved for myself this month? if nothing just start rebuking the spirit of complacency and start doing exploits, don't permit the evil force, rise up and act. Start picking up your bag of skills, strength and attitude where you left them and make an impact.

Dear Reader, 

you need God to thrive on this earth more than anything, just stay close to you by any means that work best for you.

Written by Wandehighflyer

Adios ✌

CRAFTING AN ONLINE IDENTITY

 Online Identity, Personal Brand, Self Promotion, Reputation.

Tell me, What do you call it? wait! does it matter? cos it is already out there, showcasing you to the world around you. You might not know, you might not be really aware of it but let me lick a sneak peek, My voice is at its lowest now but the words sprouting out here are so loud. "Everyone has a Personal Brand" when I type your name on Instagram and I see different dishes on your page then it's your brand, when I check you out on LinkedIn and I see posts on business and entrepreneurship, boom! that is your brand. Alas! when I check you out on Instagram again and find nothing BOOyah! that is your brand.😆

What People think about you when they hear your name

Their Perception !

your reputation is already out there, it is left to you to either shape it and rep it or you leave it to chance, happenstance and algorithm to do it for you, It is not really advisable to leave one's brand to chances, it stays in your hands till you craft it into something worthwhile.

Every Phone user has an Online Identity, you will only be doing yourself a great favor if it's being fully utilized.

Personal Brand influences people's perception

Self Promotion will give you the promotion you solely desire

Your Reputation is your footprint

Now you think of what to consider in making these four pillars strong for leaning when you are not there to speak for yourself, perhaps when you are in another part of the world doing exploits.

I will help you out, I am an emerging identity coach, striving to bring people out of the dungeon called timidity/lack of confidence. Hey! I have been there, stay with me, I know how it feels, having treasures inside you but the fear of people's reaction kept creeping on you.

There is no two day around it, it is just your mindset playing squid game on you.

here are the things to consider

*Your GOALS

⃟what is your main focus for the year, first quarter of the year, the month or the week?

⃟what are you looking forward to?

⃟do you want career advancement?

⃟Transition into another field of career?

⃟you want to build a business brand?

⃟do you want to delve into politics?

⃟or you want to be a social media celebrity?

whatever it is you want, write it down, make it specific, make it clear, what you want to be known for.

now let us move the the next stage, now that you have written your goals down,

*Your STRENGHT

you will have to identify the things that makes you unique, remember, every human has this uniqueness deposited in them by their God. what is yours? do you know where your strength lies? what are the things you are good at? is it marketing? public speaking? teaching? disrupting the stereotypes ? crafting stories? writing? multitasking? check yourself. you are equipped.

Do you know where your strength lies now? if not, you may not need to proceed with this write up till it is identified. check back later once it is sorted.

Now that you are back, let us proceed. Great job! Now you know what you are good at, where your strength lies. Congratulations! your confidence is back, you have your identity. The next thing is to bring that identity online for people to see. If you are the type that post random things that doesn't align with your identity and goals, please delete all those nonsense, they have outlived there uselessness on your social media pages.😄😄 You are here to get a life now. Let's Go!

*Your AUDIENCE

These are the people you want to make your four pillars known to because you have a goal and your strengths have been identified.

You are meant to do everything possible to make this grow for your brand to thrive because you have mighty competitors out there, they have been in the business for ages, some have even turn it to a heirloom but you don't have to let all that shrink you because you have that uniqueness in you that will make you stand out.

This is where your mission statement and goal of your brand comes to play. It is expected of you to identify how you can help your audience, the set of people who can best benefit from your brand. These are your online families, your audience, trust me, you don't want to loose them to your competitors through inactivity, slothfulness and distraction.

You don't just need social media to retain these people, you need a personal website too because you need to take full control of your reputation.

Just so you know that people will only work and stay with people they like, trust and know so you need to be intentional with your relationship with others.

Your personal website will help you in showcasing yourself to the world through photos, links to your social medias, and write ups. This will differentiate you from your contemporaries.

While I bring this to a close, it is important to focus on being helpful while posting, bring value to others and stay relevant to your community, the internet forgets quickly, so stay relevant. Impact the World positively.

Cheers to a new you!

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Written by Wandehighflyer💖